From the Editor's desk... 

Let's get real. Things are getting weird out there. This is an unprecedented, scary, stressful and unknown time.  Everyone's lives are being turned upside down, maybe during one of the (already stressful) most important chapters of your life. It's important to me that I do everything I can to help us all band together during this time. So, I wanted to address some things in the event that your wedding is being postponed due to COVID-19. 

Below are some tips and steps you should take if your wedding has been or may be postponed (not canceled! You're still going to get married.) If you have questions, or need anything, please don't hesitate to contact us. You know where to find us on social media.

First, don't panic. Your vendors are working SO hard behind the scenes, and they truly care about you and want to do right by you. I promise. Vendors are small business owners that are going to take a HUGE hit because of this, they want to find a way to work together so that everyone wins as much as possible, so take some solace in knowing that.

Communicate with the professionals. Reach out to your time, especially your planner if you have one, and talk with them. Discuss your concerns and ask if they are beginning to formulate plans. How can you reschedule, and to when? How are they managing all this? Keep the lines of communication open and honest and be kind. Everyone is struggling right now.

Consult your contracts. Most vendors will have an act of god or force majeure clause that dictates how they handle unknown circumstances like this. Review your contracts closely and see what your options are. If at all possible, consider not cancelling but postponing your event. Vendors are between a rock and a hard place right now of wanting to do right by their clients, but also needing the financial capital that deposits offer more than ever. Rescheduling vs cancelling could be the difference between a business going under or being able to survive this, so if you're able to work together with vendors to find a solution that works for everyone, that's ideal.

Communicate with your guests as well. Don't forget about attendees! Communicate with your guests as quickly and clearly as possible. Your wedding website or text is a great method. Many stationary and design companies (including the spectacular Mango Ink!) are offering free design services to create a 'Our Date Has Moved!" graphic for you to use or send to guests. Keep everyone in the loop as much as possible. 

Know that you may lose some money. Yes, it sucks. But it's the reality. No one wants to lose money, but many of your vendors have already put in the hours and materials to prep for your big day (especially if it's very soon) so they may not be able to refund your money. While it can be a tough pill to swallow, try to keep things in perspective if you're not able to get all or any of your money back. Everyone is doing the best they can with the card they've been dealt. 

Most of all, be kind. This is a REALLY tough time for all of us. For couples having to make last minute changes to one of the biggest days of their lives that they've been planned months or years for. For vendors that are looking at weeks or months without any income. For all of us. Mental health is taking a serious hit, among many other things. The world can ALWAYS use a little more kindness, so do you best to remain calm and be kind to your fellow humans. It goes a long way, and we all need it!

Be safe and healthy, wash your hands and stay home! Know we will all get through this and you will still get married. At the end of the day, your marriage is what matters even more than your wedding. We'll figure it out together.

If you're a vendor that has a way to help couples that you could like included in this post, please email us.

For more info on managing wedding postponement and COVID-19, this Brides article is a great resource, and our area's own Laurken Kendall is quoted with her advice. If everything is feeling overwhelming right now, don't be afraid to step away from the computer and information overload for a bit either. Do what's best for you. We're here for you!

Additional vendor resources:

Clint & Cindy Swindell Photography have offered free advice, consulting or services for those that may be in need. Contact them here.